Are you and your partner looking to move beyond the surface level and build a truly profound connection? Whether you are newly engaged, planning a wedding, or looking to reignite the spark in the first few years of marriage, you have likely heard about the SYMBIS Assessment (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott.
While SYMBIS is renowned for providing a roadmap for premarital counseling, its real power lies in how it fosters deepened intimacy and love life. It’s not just about avoiding divorce; it’s about thriving and building a lasting, passionate love.
Here is a deep dive into how the SYMBIS Assessment can transform your love life.
What is the SYMBIS Assessment?
The SYMBIS Assessment is an in-depth online assessment developed by experts Les and Leslie Parrott. It’s designed to help couples understand themselves as individuals and how they mesh as a unit. It generates a comprehensive 15-page report that covers everything from personalities to money habits, but its focus on dynamics—love, sex, and emotional connection—is unparalleled.
Cultivating Deeper Intimacy & Lifelong Passion
Many couples fall into the trap of thinking that romance should come naturally or that intimacy will look the same forever. The SYMBIS Assessment helps you understand that lasting intimacy is cultivated through understanding and intentionality.
1. Understanding Your Unique “Love Life” Profile
The assessment doesn’t offer a one-size-fits-all approach. It provides a personalized look into how you and your partner experience love. According to the Parrotts, this includes:
- Discovering your unique “love life” dynamics: The assessment digs into your personal attitudes toward sex and intimacy.
- Bridging the gender gap: It helps you understand how men and women often view emotional needs differently, providing tailored advice on how to connect in the way your partner prefers.
- Deepest Longing: The report uncovers your deepest longing, helping you create a soul-to-soul connection rather than just a physical one.
2. Tackling the “Hot Topics”
Intimacy cannot grow if you are harboring resentments or avoiding difficult conversations. SYMBIS helps you identify hot topics—areas of conflict that often serve as roadblocks to intimacy.
- Fight Types: You’ll discover your specific fight types and how to use conflict to strengthen your relationship rather than break it down.
- Uncovering Sexual Expectations: The assessment addresses sexual expectations, ensuring you are on the same page and creating a secure, satisfying environment.
3. Enhancing Emotional Safety
Real intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability requires emotional safety. The SYMBIS Assessment is a “gift of emotional safety” that encourages you to be authentic with your partner. As you accept your partner’s vulnerabilities and share your own, your love grows deeper.
Why SYMBIS is Different: The “Dynamics” Section
While the assessment covers many areas, the Dynamics portion is key to transforming your love life. It informs you of how you can leverage your uniqueness as people and as a couple. It covers:
- Love and Sex
- Attitudes toward Challenges
- Communication
- Bridging the Gender Gap
- Conflict Management
- Spiritual Intimacy
The Result: A Roadmap to Lasting Love
By taking the SYMBIS Assessment, you are not just hoping for a happy marriage; you are building one. It acts as a guide to bring out the best in your marriage and make it everything it was meant to be.
If you are ready to invest in a thriving, passionate marriage that lasts a lifetime, taking the SYMBIS Assessment is perhaps the most important thing you can do for your relationship.